Actress Madam Saje from Nollywood has shared advice on how to have a happy marriage.
In a live Instagram chat, 66-year-old Madam Saje, who is married to one of her coworkers, Alhaji Rafiu Balogun, explained why she chose to stay even after her husband took a second wife on behalf of their children.
Most married women stay in the marriage because of their children, not the husband because all men are the same. If you leave your children, it is as simple as you are preparing them for suffering because another wife will maltreat them. I, as a person, can’t leave my children for a minute. My husband married 2 wives and I nurtured my kids alongside my second wife.
This is due to the fact that life is too short to be breeding hatred within yourself.
I have been married since I was 18 years old”,
These are components of what has kept my marriage strong.
It’s interesting to note that Madam Saje’s post has elicited conflicting responses from her social media fans.
One Grace Idowu responded saying “Patience, perseverance, peace, and love. Alongside ready to learn, madam Saje at 48 years in marriage will tell you she is still learning. Marriage is an institution you never graduated from… God help us all”
One Titi wrote “She made good points but this generation is different children see things differently now, is it wise for children to see their mother be unhappy to go where you are happy and wanted”
One Ajike disagreed saying “Sorry oo, you stayed in an abusive marriage because of your children? You forgot you can only take care of the children if you are alive and healthy? even if you don’t have money, if you are alive and healthy, you can take care of your children, BUT if you are dead? The children will SUFFER jooo, who will be like a mother to her children? Please pray for a blessed and good marriage/ partner too. I don’t care it’s monogamous or polygamous, God’s Grace is the best”